Survival Guide for Cultural Holidays and Injuries

 A Survival Guide for Cultural Holidays and Trauma

Well, folks, it's time for the season again - the holidays. It is the time of year when you can enjoy 30 pounds [30 kg] of ham in a difficult three-week period despite swearing by meat ten months ago. Your aunt's hammer-polished hammer, and you've made it every year for as long as you can remember.

If you do not eat it, you will be disappointed and go back to all the “starving children in Africa” you have heard of since you threw that egg sandwich sandwich at kindergarten. Your mother makes macaroni and cheese, a recipe given to your grandmother. Dipped in butter and cream and four kinds of cheese that you will feel compelled to eat, even if you stop milking just before the epidemic. He volunteered to bring other healthy alternatives but met with ridicule and embarrassment.
"I don't eat Tofurkey and fake cheese!" your daughter persisted with her staff. She is contributing to candy canes this year. Now you are a vegetarian, so you are looking forward to the delicious, orange, and potato of this favorite holiday dish until your grandmother reveals her secret ingredient —– the bones of the neck. The woman puts the neck bones on everything.
Your burly uncle has been invited to dinner this year. You know, the one who hugged you the longest? Ever since he was a teenager, he has never missed an opportunity to comment on how much he has benefited and to remind him of his third wife, Irene. He had a "rack on which to eat dinner," apparently. However, instead of getting rid of the criminal and helping make you and the other girls in the family feel safe this holiday season, Uncle Moe Lester will be sitting next to you because, after all, you are "family."

The Trump presidency is over, but Biden has not yet decided on mustard, according to your father. He and your uncles are sure to start a debate over who is the least of all the evils of politics. Your mother and aunt will no doubt hold a town hall meeting about why you can't "keep a man" and how unnatural it is not to want children. Your cousins ​​will be busy betting on any game available this year, and everything will go well until someone loses a lot of money and does not want to pay. Then, they'll start fighting, and your nana will pick up a broom and tell them to "get that shit out!

There are traditions, but there are no rules. Spend your holidays though! (Image: Day / Rawpixel)
Families, right? For some people, they are much better --– bloodless and supportive of everyone who deserves it. For some, families are a constant source of lifelong misery, anxiety, and loss of respect. Finally, holiday and cultural gatherings can be exciting. Therefore, the absence of their families in the first year before the epidemic was in heaven. At that time, those who needed rest and healing experienced just that. As a result, many of us have created new cultures with other important people, children, friends, and more trusted family members - cultures that are very different from the way we did things in the past.

We learned not only what is considered important, but also who. In 2020, we were forced to change the way we live and work. And while most of us were distracted by the initial changes, like everything else, we got used to it over time. We have improved these changes and got used to each other so much that we refuse to go back to the way things were before. Most of us are happier now, working from home wearing pajamas and cutting back on communication. Those who find it difficult to set personal and professional boundaries are given Covid as an international excuse and learn to refuse because of it. Although this period is fatal and disruptive, many survivors are happy to be alive, to count little, and to get better at dressing. However, as we prepare for our first holiday of vaccination-options with widely available testing, we are more comfortable meeting now than last year. This means that there are few excuses to flee from the family. So, to prepare for what might be a stressful time of the year, here are some ideas to consider:

Being related to a person does not make him or her a family member, and just because a person is a family does not give him or her the right to respect and care for your emotional health.
If you want to celebrate the holidays with vegan mac and cheese with organic peas, served with a slice of Tofurkey, you have the right to do so, and no one has the right to make fun of you for your healthy choices.
You have the right to celebrate the holiday in any way you want, or not to celebrate it at all. The fact that there are cultures does not mean that there are rules.
You have the right to get out of the way of things that have always been in your family. You can start your own custom set or fly with the seat of your pants if you choose to. You should not feel or feel pressured to carry on rituals that make you feel uncomfortable or uncomfortable about who you are today.

You have the right not to discuss your personal life, plans, or goals with family members who do not support you and you may be pressured into activities that do not address your specific needs or desires. You do not have to date, get married, or have children. You do not have to be a nurse or a doctor, a lawyer, or anything else that someone else expects from you. You do not have to explain yourself to anyone or always listen to their opinions. You, boo-boo!
You have the right to act and speak as an adult in a room full of adults and not to be treated as a child. The family should treat you with the respect you expect from other adults in the world. You should not expect to be fired, reprimanded, or avoided by anyone, regardless of age or position in your family. He deserves to be respected like any elder.
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